Psychological and societal impacts aspect of unconscious behaviors, particularly the torment and suffering inflicted by individuals on those around them impact us on daily basis and seems to be commonly accepted. Confused by complex journey of life, we often find ourselves grappling with evolving societal roles and expectations, that become obsolete. in result, sticking to the old way of being and roles in society, we cause an unintended harm to those around us. It’s crucial to recognize that this behavior stems from an unconscious attachment to the old known way of being that is no more serving us, and struggle to adapt to new realities. All of that in result may create hidden frustration expressed in a cycle of suffering for ourselves and those we care about.
The traditional roles of men and women have been challenged and reshaped, leaving many feeling lost and unsure of how to navigate this new landscape. When the familiar no longer works, our automatic response is often to place blame outside of ourselves. Our minds resist the idea that we might be at fault, and instead, we cling to anger and the belief that we are always right.
This disconnection from our hearts leads to destructive behavior, affecting those around us. We might avoid confronting those who seem stronger and instead exert our frustration on those who are weaker or more vulnerable. This behavior is not limited to physical strength but extends to emotional and psychological dominance, often unconsciously perpetuated within families and relationships.
When we act out of anger and a need to be right, we fail to see the suffering we cause. We create unrealistic expectations and fail to recognize the harm we inflict. Over time, this behavior alienates us from our loved ones. Relationships deteriorate, and we find ourselves wondering why our partners and children no longer wish to engage with us. The irony is that we believed we were doing everything right, yet the outcome tells a different story.
Consciousness about this destructive potential can be devastating, particularly for men who have traditionally been seen as protectors and providers. However, women who adopt these traditionally masculine roles can also fall into similar patterns. The key issue is a lack of consciousness, a disconnection from love, and an inability to respond effectively to the world around us.
This bleak picture is all too common, but there is hope. I have experienced this cycle myself and, fortunately, was able to recognize the destruction my actions were causing. I was walking around angry for no reason, convinced that everything I had done was correct and that the people around me were just idiots who couldn’t understand reality and facts. I was squeezed by my built-in obligation to provide for my family, which, in the end, was castrating my wife and son from being able to act and help me, as my expectations could never be met by anyone. I wanted everything done my way, as any other way was just a waste of my time, which I had so little of. I had justification for not taking care of myself because I had to work to provide… it was all so logical, so true in the loop of my own thoughts that it was nearly perfect. Nobody could convince me that I might have been wrong, until my body started collapsing and I began getting ill despite being fairly young.
It was all so logical to me from my mental perception of reality, not allowing anything that was not experienced or confirmed by authorities to appear in my life. It all changed only when I had enough and could not find any other logical options to explain why, despite being right in my thinking, I was feeling miserable both mentally and physically. Having had enough of being right in my own cage of perception, by opening my consciousness and learning to control my mind, I began to feel and understand the depth of my wrongdoings. This journey of self-awareness and change is challenging but necessary.
To break free from this cycle, we must stop tormenting those around us and end our own suffering. It starts with accepting responsibility for our actions and understanding that we are accountable for the impact we have on others. This realization may be uncomfortable, but it is the first step towards healing and balance.
By embracing this journey, we can uncover the good within us, hidden beneath layers of insecurity, ego, and past experiences. It is a decision to live consciously, to connect with our hearts, and to foster understanding and compassion. This path leads to true transformation, where we no longer cause suffering but instead contribute to a more harmonious and loving world.
So maybe next time you want to raise your voice or get angry at your wife, husband, son, colleague at work or the lady in the shop or anyone around you, please stop and consider whether it is not by accident that you are angry at yourself, but in your helplessness or unconsciousness you are expressing these emotions to others.
Let’s stop the torment, the bullying, and the mistreatment of all around us. Let’s stop being victims of our own minds and start being the good people we are capable of being. The power to change is within us, and it begins with a single, conscious decision.
