Over the last 15 years, I have gone through various self-help books, courses, or tutorials that promised to help me change and achieve my dream life. Some of them did not make any sense to me (despite being popular), and some of them I could not even listen to, as the gap between the author and myself from a vibrational or evolutionary perspective might have been too wide. However, for whatever reason, I ended up buying or checking one after another with the same results. I was building my knowledge base but could not see any changes in my life or the promised results.
What could be the reasons?
Self-help books, courses, and tutorials can be a valuable resource for personal growth and development, but they may not work for everyone. What could be the reasons?
From a logical and analytical perspective, lack of action could be the obvious one. We may stuff ourselves with knowledge but fail to take any action based on the advice given. On the other hand, even if we take action, we may stop after some time and revert back to old habits and patterns. Of course, some time may be required to find and test the way that works for every individual, as due to the nature of diversity between people, some approaches work for some people, and for some, they may not work at all. Maybe you just can’t change the way the guides are presented at the time you are in your life, which may indicate unrealistic expectations you are setting for yourself. On top of that, we can’t neglect the mental state you may be in during the time you wish to change, such as depression, anxiety, eating disorders, or undiagnosed sickness
Some perspective.
And this is where conventional medicine would normally stop, confirming one of the sources in one of these categories and treating symptoms in one way or another. What I found fascinating while working on my own healing process and with people is that there could be something else embedded in our DNA from an energy point of view, something that could be limiting us beyond any logically possible explanation.
If we are sick, it may be telling us that we are in some chronic state of imbalance. If we have disorders, it may be telling us that the imbalance is there, and we are on the way to sickness if we don’t seriously look at what is happening with us. Lack of action or letting go of the work after the first few days could be showing that we are aware of the imbalance, want to change something, but the level of self-awareness, respect, and lack of self-love does not allow us to keep up with what we know. Lack of love could then be bonded again to the source pattern or experience that we are not consciously aware of, but that exists and impacts us on a daily basis.
The challenge.
It is challenging to explain, as it goes beyond our capacities and capabilities that we are used to using and considering as true in our daily lives. To see what lies behind, a view from a totally different perspective is required, one that considers us as much more complex entities than physical human beings that have been investigated scientifically over the years, showing how our bodies technically work. It requires looking at the energy side to check experiences and traumas from this or previous lives, to be able to go to the point that resulted in the creation of a pattern in you that is impacting you and will continue to impact you until you understand and change it. As a result of a situation that was understood (or rather misunderstood) in the best possible way at the time of occurrence, an imbalance or blockage with a certain pattern of thinking was created, which can only be healed through understanding that the situation you were in at that time is no longer valid in your current life and age.
A recent example from a family constellation involved a patient who was working on the consequences of abandonment syndrome. It was revealed that everything was related to a situation when he was around 2-3 years old. It turned out that his mother was pregnant with another child who died a couple of hours after being born. All the happiness and attention he used to receive disappeared as his parents were living in permanent mourning and could no longer see him. The patient could not create his life and was imbalanced, seeking the attention of others and repeating the behaviour of his parents. Until the patient understood that living this way was no longer relevant, he was not aware of the false program from his past situation.
The paradox of self-healing is that you cannot see things before healing. You need to pass experiences or therapy (which could be self-help, but you must be very strong and persistent) first to remove blockages, and only then can understanding be created. In the case of a more complex background or problems in the subconscious or energy field, it may be extremely difficult. If the real cause of the problem is not removed from your life, you will keep repeating the same patterns, living with a program that has a limited perspective and reality.
On the other hand, you might have planned it all before coming to this world as your challenge, and you would heal only if you embrace it, surrender, and allow things to happen before you can understand everything. If you want to use self-help and try to understand everything before healing or removing blockages of energy, you may actually be making things more difficult. It could be better to accept the status you are in and instead do nothing, but it really depends on the case.
Pre self-help healing step may be required.
If anything here resonates with you, and you keep repeating the same patterns and buying another self-help course or book that you let go or does not work, you may continue doing so. However, if a couple of attempts did not work, it may indicate that there is something else blocking you, and self-help will not work until you go to the real source of the problem. You may need some help where someone will be able to assist you in finding, understanding, and healing the real cause of your imbalance. Once it is moved, you will get a new perspective with external help, and maybe then you will be able to go to the self-help shelf you have and finally make it work so that you can continue self-healing and evolution on your own.
